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I Think I Have Sexual Issue's

Hi,

Im a 26 yearr old mother of one child. My partner was 22 when we first started dating fours years ago. Our sex life was great and I was really into it. About a year after we started dating I found out that my partner had been messaging another female. He denied it of course, and it stopped happening. I stayed with him but a year later we broke up for six months. Then got back together and agreed it would be a fresh start.

Not long after I became pregnant with our child. Everything was great for a few months until I found he had been in contact with an old family friend. I was fine with, until I saw a mssage he had been sending her. He said he missed her and he wasn't happy in our relationship. That broke my heart because we just had just had our baby and I thought we were very happy and in love.

I confronted him, with this. He apologised saying he didn't really mean what he had said to her and that it was just to get attention, knowing he could never have her if he wanted.

Since then it has happened another two more times, the most recent being six months ago. Once again I have stayed with him. Things seem to be different this time.

We have our own place now which we never had before so things really have seemed to change.

The only problem is our sex life. I find myself just not interested in it at all. I never start any sexual activity and that annoys him. I find myself thinking that I'm just not good enough when we do have sex. It is more like a chore for me than me enjoying it.

I don't want to feel like this. Is there anything I can do??? PLEASE HELP!

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