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Why Can't I Get Over It?

I have been married for 24 years. Three years ago my husband's ex-girlfriend befriended him on facebook and then asked him to keep the liaison secret, which he did. I found out a month after their involvement. She befriended him under the pretext that his nieces had visited and that she thought he would be interested in the pictures. She "poked" him twice when he did not respond. I later found a picture of her on his computer that he had kept from the picture of his nieces and none kept of his nieces. We have reconciled our relationship but I can't let the liaison go and I think it is because his feelings for her are unresolved, although he states that he hates her for what she has done to us and our sons.

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