We have been married for 35 years and I recently discovered (through receipt for M+S items) that he was in a different part of the country than what he told me he was and I was away on family business elsewhere. He lied in the text we exchanged. He lied in long conversations with me while apart. I had to force him to tell me, which he reluctantly did, that he went to see an ex girl friend that he says has mental health issues. He also admitted that he had seen her several times over the years and got her to come to London to see him several times. As I always felt that something else was going on, I feel I cannot trust him anymore because previously he had denied meeting other females and it was not true. What can I do to get him to talk about how much he has hurt me with his secretcy?
THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION WILL NOT BE DISPLAYED UNTIL YOU HAVE INDICATED YOUR AGREEMENT WITH THE DISCLAIMER PRINTED JUST BELOW. CLICK THE 'I AGREE' BUTTON TO AGREE TO THESE TERMS AND SEE THE RESPONSE.
- Dr. Schwartz responds to questions about psychotherapy and mental health problems, from the perspective of his training in clinical psychology.
- Dr. Schwartz intends his responses to provide general educational information to the readership of this website; answers should not be understood to be specific advice intended for any particular individual(s).
- Questions submitted to this column are not guaranteed to receive responses.
- No correspondence takes place.
- No ongoing relationship of any sort (including but not limited to any form of professional relationship) is implied or offered by Dr. Schwartz to people submitting questions.
- Dr. Schwartz, Mental Help Net and CenterSite, LLC make no warranties, express or implied, about the information presented in this column. Dr. Schwartz and Mental Help Net disclaim any and all merchantability or warranty of fitness for a particular purpose or liability in connection with the use or misuse of this service.
- Always consult with your psychotherapist, physician, or psychiatrist first before changing any aspect of your treatment regimen. Do not stop your medication or change the dose of your medication without first consulting with your physician.